There’s been a whole lotta buzz lately about the website Miss Bimbo dot com. I heard about it through the awesome TentoTwenty site, where I’m a contributing writer, but there have been multiple other folks on the interwebs discussing its relevance. In fact, several of us have been so disturbed by the overt implications of this site, we’re each dedicating a post to it, specifically today: Thursday because it’s Throat Punch Thursday over at Debi’s, and we’re all joining in the fun.

Several of my friends will be talking about the negative messaging this sends to our tween crowd and how this site is one more reason young girls will see themselves as not good enough, not skinny enough, not whatever enough. And all of that is probably true, and it’s deplorable.

But my rant and throat punch today won’t be for those reasons. I am dedicating my throat punch to women who give other women a bad image. STOP DRAGGING ME DOWN BECAUSE YOU THINK IT’S FUNNY, NO BIG DEAL, and NOT HURTING ANYONE!

When one woman degrades herself, she degrades all of us along with her. To refer to yourself as a bimbo – even in jest – is to debase me, too. Do you even know the definition of a bimbo?

an attractive but empty-headed young woman, esp. one perceived as a willing sex object.

Last month a photograph of a puffy-faced Ashley Judd appeared all over the internet, and immediately critics were discussing the obvious plastic surgery signs, weight gain issues, and how Ashley’s husband’s wandering eyes will get her back to how she should be looking. Ashley Judd is one of my new heroes because she stood up for me when she published a three-page response to all the haters, gossipers, critics and rumor spreaders. Please take a few minutes to read her article published on The Daily Beast.

The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us. The Conversation about women happens everywhere, publicly and privately. We are described and detailed, our faces and bodies analyzed and picked apart, our worth ascertained and ascribed based on the reduction of personhood to simple physical objectification.


Be the person who STOPS promoting the hyper-sexualization of our society.

Women: Have enough respect for yourself to know where and when to draw the line in your conversation, your dress, and in your relationships.

Men: Please show women the respect they deserve, and help them rise above the low standards society currently embraces.

We can all do better than Miss Bimbo, who thinks so little of herself that a website devoted to her crassness, cleavage and curves is her idea of success and fulfillment. I know better.